His Exact Words

What to say when you don't know what to say.

You've read the method. You know the pull is what's keeping him braced. And then it's Tuesday, he says "I'll do it tomorrow," and every good intention you had evaporates into the sentence you've said four hundred times before.

Knowing what not to do is the easy half. This is the other half.

His Exact Words is the word-for-word companion to The Set-Down Method — 100+ scripts for the moments that actually decide things:

• When he asks "what's gotten into you?" in a tone you can't read
• When he says he'll do it tomorrow — again
• When you need something done and every way of asking sounds like nagging
• When he finally opens up and you have nine seconds not to blow it
• When you're owed an apology and waiting for it is costing you more than it's worth
• When the silence has gone on so long that anything you say will sound like an event

Each one gives you the words, what they're doing underneath, and — just as usefully — the near-identical version that undoes the whole thing.

These are illustrations, not prescriptions. Adapt every line to your own voice, and only ever say what's true for you.

One true sentence before any script: if what's wrong in your marriage is fear — if you're afraid of him — words aren't the tool.

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